We are told that conflict is bad. Conflict is war; conflict is strife; conflict is ego. Ego is conflict. Ego is cruelty. Ego is taking for yourself what you want from others. We are all ego, and we are all unapologetic for our narcissism in the end. We are fully narcissism incarnate. I myself am the hand of my ego reaching out to disrupt your placid existence. I say what I want, do what I want, feel what I want, take what I want, and I deserve it. We all do. That’s the way life is.
But it’s worth it all because ego is ultimately what we seek. Egos melt together and become friendships and relationships. Friendships and relationships become families and states and businesses and nations and peoples. These things become the world. We are the world. We are the roads we travel, the friends we meet, the kindnesses given to the poor, the truths told by science, and the prayers offered for the sick.
When we melt through each other, which is inevitable, we descend into conflict. We fight and make war. Many people think that this is unnatural and terrible, that this is bad, but in truth, it’s a part of the circle of life. Conflict is how we grow and join again and build new foundations. It’s worth it because from the ashes of war, new life will always grow. The universe is an eternal cycle of creation and destruction.
You cannot stop this cycle, no matter how hard you might want to. It’s ultimately what moves all things: building, wiping away, and building again. If you can accept that this is how life is, you’ll be a happy person for the rest of your life, until the time of your ultimate destruction and perhaps “rebirth”, however that may prove to come about, if it does in fact come in a spiritual sense at all, is upon you. Perhaps we’ll just die into the dust, but it doesn’t matter: we have no power to stop it. We are only creatures of flesh and blood. Happiness is accepting what you can and can’t change in life and flowing with it.